Valentine’s Day Special: Celebrating Losses

By 14 February, 2017Thoughts

Valentine’s Day is the day where couples demonstrate how expensive relationships can be; shrewd businesses would try to fleece as much cash from doe-eyed lovers. Parting with your cash somewhat becomes much easier, especially when F&B and gift shops re-brand the same product with romantic-sounding names.

To celebrate being in love is technically a huge business. In this era of economic uncertainties, any natural motivations that can bring in sales are always encouraged.

In my opinion, three types of people naturally emerge on Valentine’s Day:
A) Those who are never attached
B) Those who are in love and still in love
C) Those who were in love but has gone back to be single

As a general outlook: those that are never attached often wonder how it feels like to be one of the many couples out there… seemingly in love… seemingly happy. Those that are celebrating their union are probably reveling in their own gaiety.

But what about those who were in love and lost it? Probably ambivalent feelings of bitter-sweet taste… with some feeling more bitter than the others.

Would it be possible to celebrate our losses? This may sound counter-intuitive, but part of celebrating love – in an abstract manner – is embracing the fact that we have loved and lost. I mean it is no shame about how things have developed eventually. On hindsight, maybe what love wants to teach us is not to give us what we want, but letting us know subtly what we truly need.

And this is also a call for celebration because we learn more about ourselves and the kinds of relationship that would work for us.

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For those who are going Valentine’s Day in the third category – let’s also learn to embrace our loss and be grateful towards those who came into our life but left. After all, they didn’t go empty – the cosmic lesson they left behind made us stronger and wiser.

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And this is a loss worth celebrating.

Happy Valentine’s Day! 🙂

About Mark Lin

Mark Lin works in Montfort Care and is the brain for the Good Death project. He has been working in the social service sector since 2010 with a passion to serve the elderly population in Singapore. He loves potatoes very much

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