Still the one I love: Uncle Chia tells us their story of long-lasting commitment
This year they will have been married for 38 years.
This will be the year that they will be preparing for their only daughter’s wedding too.
It was a rare opportunity when I was able to hear from Uncle Chia about their love and his secrets to his daughter for a good marriage. #lovefromamansperspective
Where did you first meet each other?
We met in 1977 at our family gathering. Aunty Jun was my sister’s friend and when I saw her, I knew it was love at first sight. I plucked up all my courage and asked for her number, which she willingly gave -chuckles-
I can still remember our first date at the theatres. I called the number that she has written on the paper and the rest was history.
What were some of the challenges you have faced in your marriage?
The hardest was getting her parents to approve our marriage and to agree with us applying for a flat together.
The rest wasn’t difficult as she was always with me no matther how hard things got.
What have you enjoyed about marriage?
I love building our home together. It’s like a dream come true after all the obstacles we have to go through to get a flat.
I love making decisions together on the house renovations and it made me very happy when we finally have a place to call home.
She is also my best travel buddy. We worked hard. We saved all our money so that we can travel together. When we finally have our daughter after 11 years, we still take time to travel together and on our own. I love that we can always do everything together yet still be so independent on our own.
What’s your greatest wish for your marriage at this phase of your life?
I wish that we will continue to walk through the end of life together, hand-in-hand. I know that life will continue to be difficult as we approach the end, I wish that we will still be able to handle all the ups and downs together and to age graciously together.
What is the secret to a good marriage for your daughter and the other younger couples?
A good marriage is built on a lot patience, endurance, stamina and learning how to run away when my wife is angry! Being strategic is key! There will be times when we will both be so angry with each other but don’t allow these emotions to break your marriage. Always remember that no matter what happens, you can always start again the next morning. She always forgets. Haha!
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